Looking to transform your life? It all starts with your mind and your thought process. You have your beliefs and perceptions and once you believe something that actually becomes a filter to your five senses and that becomes what you perceive. But when you open your mind, and question your beliefs, you can see new information break out of the box. Today, I’m opening up the phone lines and answering some of your questions around this.

 

Q: Rach and Shane, you have so many positive characteristics – I’m curious to know what it is you do when you’re slacking off a little bit? How do you get yourself out of that and does that still happen for you now? When you’re having those chunks of time when you’re slacking off?

A: Some people are motivated enough to be consistent go-getters, but that is not naturally me. What I did is made a decision to move in certain ways, with no safety net. When deadlines come there’s no other option than to make it. There’s no out. You have to deliver or you fail. So there can be no slacking off!

I applied this early in my first entrepreneurial venture. I’m not an early riser but I got up at 4am – I got into action – I didn’t want another job so I woke up early and did it. I started creating momentum and eventually success.

This is still true for me today. There are things I’m preparing for now – the deadline determines the action – and I give myself short deadlines and bigger bars to achieve. A person challenged has the opportunity to rise to the occasion. And you can’t do that slacking off, so I tend not to!

No safety nets – it’s do or die – I’ve reverted to that approach by deciding what I’m going to do and then taking actions that really require an outcome. I’ve utilized that urgency to overcome slacking off.

Q: When you take different steps to raise vibration when you find yourself in a downer – like listening to music or doing some personal development – how do you identify when you’ve reached the optimum vibration, and utilize it and stop it from depleting?

A: It comes down to – you learn. For me, when I have a realization or inspiration I notice it, but until I take action that vibration really isn’t fulfilled. It has to be an on-purpose action, on that vibration frequency, not just any action.

So I think: What could I do right now that would fly completely in the face of it? And I’ll do it. Not once. Daily, so that newer higher vibration is created. Where if I just had the inspiration and decided to keep reading PD books, you lose the moment. So I’m a big fan of acting in the moment – big bold action that scares you in the direction of your goal. Take that scary step that your past self, your smaller self, would never take. And jump in and do it. And do it on a regular basis.

Q: Adam – how does one go from making a decision on what they want, to actually believing in their decision?

A: Honestly, it’s similar to the previous answer. Action is the key! I made a decision to be an entrepreneur and put one foot in front of the other and every step was scary and out of my comfort zone. I had to figure it all out from the beginning and succeed. I took enough of those steps to convince myself that I could achieve anything.

And count every win, continue to take steps out of your comfort zone, start hanging out with people that are like-minded and on-purpose. Get in the conversation of success, and when you start hearing from people who are doing it, you’re going to start believing that you can do it to. It’s a progression over time, and it is infinite.

Prove to yourself you can do it. Don’t be too harsh on the immediate outcomes. Learn, action and endure. The prize goes to the person that’s trying, consistently growing and stays optimistic. Momentum builds up and the transformation takes place.

Q: I have been struggling with medical and physical issues – I tell myself to be positive – but I’m running a business, which is now taking a back seat. I’m having difficulty balancing the two, as I really need my business to take the forefront. What’s your advice?

A: Sometimes you just can’t do everything that needs to be done. Sometimes enough is enough and you have to give yourself permission to not worry about this right now and prioritize. And there’s no greater priority than health!

If it’s not going to happen don’t grind yourself into the ground trying to do the impossible. Sometimes you have to put things on hold, until you have time to figure it out

Health has to come first. And everything else can just wait. But if you have enough horsepower to handle the health and go after the business as well, you’ve got to learn how to compartmentalize. It’s a discipline. Schedule out hours of the day that you’re doing A and B. And obey that schedule. This will give you the space and freedom to see what you can realistically achieve. But learn to compartmentalize, it’ll serve you in your life.

Q: How does charging towards your goal marry with the empathy for those around you who get uncomfortable?

A: Wow! We have such on-purpose people tuning in, what a great question. We have different roles in life we play, and one of the biggest ones we play is what we do for money.

These things take time commitment and resources and that can leave them in short supply for you to share with those in your family and immediate circle.

Compartmentalizing comes up again here. This is a habit you’ll have to develop – schedule the time you’re on and the time you’re off. It takes 21 days to create a habit. It’s gonna be hard, but on the other side of that, if you stick with it, you’re going to find it is easier and easier and life will work so much better. You’ll make up in quality what you lack in quantity.

What I do when I get pulled in too many directions is ask myself: Why am I getting angry and frustrated? So I look at what I can do with that energy instead to transform it into something useful. If you can get in the habit of doing that, it will become horsepower to serve those multiple things that are pulling at you at once.

Q: When going after goals, the beginning of the journey is made up of ‘not what to do’ so how do we get quicker at knowing the right things to do and get quicker to the goals?

A: I’ve been an entrepreneur since 1996 and I will let you know if I ever find how to do that! I’ve failed my way to success. It was a learning curve and that’s how I climbed.

I’ve given up on trying to make correct decisions. I do what feels right in my gut, and then I take action and in the midst of that I figure out I’m not 100% right. My job is to make it go right anyway. And that’s the role I play but it takes some course correcting along the way.

Be willing to fail, settle in and enjoy the journey. Maintain your urgency for goals but be willing to fall on your face and pick yourself up again.

Q: Fear = False Evidence Appearing Real – but what do you do if what you fear has materialized? How do you move forward without being paralyzed by fear?

A: Faith. A part of life is designed to reveal to you the depth of strength, determination, wisdom in the face of chaos. When you really commit and own what you’re doing, no matter what… magic happens. Have faith in this knowledge.

Your job is to make the decision, and then do everything possible to ensure it’s the right decision. And in the process of that negative things can happen. The fear may come up and materialize and throw you off track, but it doesn’t change the fact that this is what you’re doing. And that whole part of being committed is to have faith that it will work out.